Photo by This Year’s Love
Confidence and loving oneself is a lifelong struggle for all people. It is one of the hardest aspects of human life, and one of the most important. It is not something learned by reading a book, and is not something that comes overnight. Learning to love yourself requires positive changes that you make in your life to better your self.
All people alike deserve to live a happy, blissful, and joyous life. So often though it is easy to succumb to feelings of loss, regret, or sadness. With an attitude of “I’m not good enough”, you only lessen your self worth, and others begin to believe that you truly aren’t.
Take some time to yourself. Get to know you, on your own. Find out what you can do for yourself in order to be happy. I know a lot of women who throw themselves into relationship after relationship. As soon as one ends, the next begins. However, blanketing our discontent in ourselves, with an array of lovers only further provokes the need for someone to tell us we are special, or we are beautiful. Until you truly begin to provide love for yourself, how can you give love to another?
Having feelings of not being good enough often comes from comparing ourselves to others. We see someone who is skinnier, taller, has a narrower nose, and we can’t help but think; “why don’t I have that?”. Learn to accept your flaws, whatever they may be. This is the most difficult thing for most people to come to terms with. I like to look at my flaws as quirks or trademarks. Whether your tummy pokes out a little too far, your hair has the texture of a poodle, or you are like me and have the worlds biggest overbite, realize that this does not define you as a human being.
Often times we are faced with the challenge of fitting into a situation where we are uncomfortable. It is these times that it becomes easier to act as a chameleon, and go along with what everyone says, likes, or does though we may disagree. Be who you are. Don’t try to change your interests, viewpoints, or style based upon the people around you. So what if you are the only one in your group of friends that is obsessed with 80’s hair bands, still collects My Little Ponies, or doesn’t give a hoot about Johny Depp. Own up to your differences and celebrate them. Be the unique person that you are.
People are naturally attracted to strong, confidant, and unique individuals. By boosting your confidence and learning to love yourself, not only are you bettering your self, but the relationships you share with others with others will improve as well.
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megan says:
Well said!
January 15th, 2008 at 9:05 am